Just checking in on you Surrender. I know your situation is a hard one and it something that has been on going for several years. It's a positive that you acknowledged the need to make decisions based on a sound mind and not an emotional hart. That's very important and will serve you well as this process moves along.
I can still sense some anxiety in your post. Believe it or not, time is still on your side and it can be your friend. There's no need to make rash decisions and thinking D is going to give you instant emotional relief is wrong IMHO. It's just a piece of paper. Time and detachment are the only tools that will help in the healing process. Look after yourself and give the W some space. Don't press the issue or give her ultimatums it will just worsen the situation. Act as if your going to be OK no matter what even if that does sound impossible. Get your ducks lined up legally, but give yourself some time to process all of this before pulling the trigger.
Hang in there!
Tom
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
