Two steps forward and one step back is still a step in the right direction girl! You are doing good. Taking time for yourself and to get your head on straight is really important. You are doing it.

It does sound like H is making some good progress towards coming home. Moving stuff back is very positive indeed. I guess it's still all about patience. It needs to be on his timeframe until he's put himself firmly back in the marriage.

I'm so pleased you had a good time with your girlfriend and then out with friends. I disagree that having a wild night on the turps isn't good for you. I think sometimes it's exactly what the Dr ordered. Live it up. Go wild. Remember who you are and how much craziness and fun is in your heart.

I recall when I was going through my separation my sister said to me one day "what's happened to you Ginny, you are so sad and boring - and you used to be hoot!" That's the kind of thing you are looking to find again. Your fun, funny, gorgeous self.

I get how much it must have hurt when he didn't come back onthe night he said he would - but I guess he's tying up loose ends. He obviously has some sincere linkage with the woman he's seeing (as much as I care about you, I actually feel really sorry for her, because I wonder how much she really knows about his real status?) - and we know what a problem he has with making decisions, so he may well be trying to end it, but doesn't have the balls to actually do it. When this is over he's going to need to get some help in the 'personal-decision-making' department.

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... being my "new" flirtatious self. Jody suggested that I invite him out to do non-business type activities that he might enjoy to help us get more "connected."


This is probably the key you know. Remind him of how fun it is to be with you - particuarly at this time when he's trying to break up with OW. Chances are she's not real fun to be with while he's pulling away from her, so you have an opportunity to be the go-to girl for fun, love and happiness.

It sounds like talking to Jody is really helping you and giving you good strategies to use - so keep that up too.

I hope you have a great weekend with your folks and you come back refreshed to start another week of DBing.

I've been thinking about you and praying for you, take care of yourself and don't give up.

((((hugs))))

V

Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.