Thanks so much for your help. I know I am making progress for myself and am not reacting to every little thing my XH does. As for the hurt and doubt, I know they probably won't ever totally go away but become something I could live with. Right now, my XH isn't really doing a whole lot to make me feel better, but I'm okay with that. I am not waiting for him to make me happy. As of today, I'm not really sure I want things to work out. Since we're divorced, I figure it's up to him to show me that he really wants us to be together since he's the one who cheated and left.
I know we could be really great together--that our M could be better than it ever was, because I know I love him and I know he loves me but after everything that has happened, I can't be the only one who is willing to do this. So, unless he commits to "us" and wants to really put our M back together all I can do is concentrate on myself and try to do things that make me happy. He is in IC right now so I'm not sure he wants to do MC at the same time. I'll definitely bring it up if he starts talking like he wants us to be together. Right now though I'm backing off and not saying anything about our R.
Thanks again for your encouragement and support. I'm so happy things are working out for you. I think "one day at a time is the route to go"! Take care.
