Help--Need Objective Perspective

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I can't control his actions, but I can control my reactions and I refuse to let his actions upset me. I decided that I can be happy with or without him. Life is too short to be miserable

Awesome!!!!!! I told you had a great attitude!!

After I read your posting and thought about what I said about pain, that's when I realized I don't have to experience that pain anymore. Detachment is hard but I think I finally get it now.

And there you have it!! Wow farm......you are WAY ahead of me this!!!

I wanted to add that I think you handled to kiss thing perfectly. Letting him know that you don't have any expectations from him *could* make him wonder what the heck is going on.

I think your plan is great. Hang back, don't be readily available for him unless it involves your son.

I'm confused on something though. With him moving back. Is he moving back to have a place to live or is he moving back to try and repair the M? Is this something that is definite?

From your post, all in all you handled yourself well and kept your PMA up despite your X's actions. Kudos to you!!!I'm beginning to think I should be asking you for advice instead of trying to give it!!!

Have a great night. Take care.

~SE