I do not know much about your FOO because I have never seen you nor MrsNop ever mention it. But my statement is based solely on what I see in your comments and your reactions. There is a link to FOO in that I say your tactics are fear based… but that link is such a consistent pattern in relationships and human behavior, there ought to be a “law of relationships.”
My comments weren’t meant to condemn your relationship, but I do think they are an accurate depiction of what we see on the board. MrsNop is the one who stated she will jump to your defense whenever someone “attacks” you, so I didn’t even have to make an observation on that point. As you have in the past, you are now doing the same in jumping to her defense.
For you, putting forth the idea of breaking someone’s jaw because of something that started between you and your W seems to work. I do not think it will work for many others. Defending your rationale as the result of years of training to kill people does not make sense either. You preach constraint, planning, control, rationality, dealing with the hard facts, strategizing a solution… but to say that you may not be able to control yourself and that just breaking someone’s jaw is just your way is simply absurd. I’ve called many people out on their deflections, and this is just another deflection by you. I can understand you not wanting to debate it. Most people don’t like being called out.
I don't treat my wife without respect.
How can this be, if you have so little concern for your W that you are ready to throw her out at the first indiscretion (or would it be the first)? Corri was right at the core of the issue, which is that same message you preach, that if a woman wanders, it is 50% the man’s fault. How does this square with the advice you are now giving?
It’s not that I care how you conduct your marriage, but those types of comments can lead others to some dangerous ideas. There is value in your methods, but to best use that knowledge, a person NEEDS to know why and when those methods work and when they don’t. Isn’t that the purpose of this board? So what is wrong with me referencing your sitch?
I just don't bother to read most of your posts. I suggest that the same is a good tactic for you.
Your choice, but your could learn something every now and then….
