Now tell me whether that sounds like a healthy marriage or just another form of control?
Ah, the line between being in-control and controlling. The line between being assertive and domineering. Alpha males are supposed to be always in-control. So if my scenario of saying I will do everything I can to remove an OM from the situation (including breaking a jaw if necessary and warranted) then dealing with the A is controlling, how can I "lessen" it to be "in-control?" Maybe it is the saying that you and Martelo are finding objectionable?
Sorry if I'm being glib, but this is a discussion that I worry that what I say may end up being counterproductive. My C has repeatedly told me that there are certain things that are ok to think and act upon, but you should never say, as the saying creates thought processes that destroy the intended outcome. There are certain things that are best done on a feeling/emotional level rather than a thinking/logical level. This alpha male stuff probably falls into that category. If you try to apply to much logic to it, it fails.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
