Yvonne,
It is confusing. The "muddy water will settle," and you will get a clearer understanding of what your H is going-thru. This will take months versus weeks.

It's OK to continue a sexual R. We do have to build on the positives as you say. Do you feel OK with this, or does something seem wrong about it?

It sounds like you're taking baby steps. Keep practicing. Not answering every phone call is a good start. It portrays a poor image of us, when we answer every phone call.

For Valentine's Day, I gave my W a humorous card, that reflected her interest in jazz. It was more of a friendship card. Something more sentimental would have been insincere.

I think your gift needs to reflect the state of the R, combined with your love and fondness for him. I think as long as your gift doesn't come with any expectations, and is sincere, then I think you'll be fine.

CL

Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 05/12/07 01:27 PM.
CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching