Good Morning MC! I'm glad you are feeling better today. Those dips in the roller coaster really suck! I'd like to hear the suggestions regarding subtle ways to have your S feel your absence as well. I know it's a balancing act and that everyone's sitch is slightly different but I certainly need help with this, too.
As for coping with the contact between your W and OM - sometimes I like to think that every conversation or minute spent with the OP brings them closer to the end of their R. I also say a prayer for H at those times when I know they are together. It helps a little...
Have a great day.. I hope you make a ton of cash at the garage sale!