Sashaying thru Seperation II

[mcojh]

Thanks everyone for weighing in and proping me up. I was down about the "I am comfortable" statement and then the fact that she was with the OM last night pushed me deeper. Curses to my expectations that continue to get the best of me.

Last night was tough, mostly because I got a little sunburn yesterday and I had a spicy supper. That kept me awake and helped me to ruminate.

This morning is the garage sale again. I am working so I won't be here for most of today. To be a nice guy, I went and got fresh bagels for breakfast I called W to find out what kind she would like. She was cheery and nice, like she has no problems in the world.

I am committed to this fight again. I was down, but I am rising again. I will do stuff with her this weekend, because I committed to it, but after this weekend I need to let her feel my absense more. That is where I need help from you guys.

Several of you have used the phrase or similar statements to, "let her feel your absence in subtle ways". What exactly do you mean by that? How am I supposed to balance the absence and the contact? If I totally back off, I will likely get a reaction like I got when I did the LRT while she was at home, that I no longer care and want out of the M as well. Do I go 50%, 60% 75% or a combination? I guess my real question is, what are subtle ways?