Things were going well, GALing, spent Thur night at my sisters house, came back on Sat morning (W looks after daughter on Thu and Fri nights, I look after DD on Mon, Tue, Wed and Sat nights).
This morning when I was getting DD ready for soccer (W only lasted two games and cant be bothered going to watch DD), DD told me that mummy told her last night that our M was over and we were getting a divorce.
This made me upset and I woke up W and confronted her about discussing things with DD (seeing we have only been separated a few months (however W backdated it to Oct 06). I told her that she should not be discussing the issue so early as we still had 6 months left before D (she still hasn't given me a date).
W started talking about selling house, trading in car for smaller one, looking at buying a unit in area after sale etc etc. I have a feeling that this had something to do with me GALing, and spending nights away from home.
I then backslid and confronted her about OM, demanding the truth (how advanced was relationship, what had they done, sex, etc etc).
She kept denying it and stuck to the "just friends". She told me that he knew where she stood on a R and that they had not discussed it, just liked hanging out together etc.
Got nasty, me telling her to go out and not come home, stay with him, may as well do it now, why wait six months etc etc etc. All I wanted was the truth so I could have some sort of closure. She said she would not come home, fine!
She got angry, said she had enough of my accusations, I haven't changed etc was going to find a place to move out on Mon, and take DD etc.
Brought up things, eg, my family never wanted us to marry (even though they always treated her well), I was secretive (nature of my job), controlling, etc. Never made an effort to attend her family's functions, not intimate enough, not committed to family...............which is all untrue.
She was so angry, biting her nails and tapping her foot, and would not look me in the eyes.
I managed to calm things down tonight, before she went out, and told her that I wouldn't discuss her private life again. She calmed down.
She got all dressed up, looking great and has gone out (over to OM house).
What have I done....I was doing so well and got sucked back into her MLC world.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
