SF, I believe you can name another party as corespondent...most people do not do this anymore b/c it drags everything out...but he will have to pay his wife back for all the money he spent on the OW....and her jewelry are considered "gifts" and are many times not counted in the settlement. What a dweeb to think he can do that...they'll try anything when they're in MLC!!!!
Hang in there sweets, there ARE things you can do...however, SF is right you do not have to be notified of the filing...but you will have to be served before the first court date. However, be careful of this as he can serve you very close to the court date...where you have to pick a L very quickly thus you may hire a L that is not so good. Don't fall into that trap.
Hire a lawyer that you are comfortable with and that you like and who you feel will do a good job for you...
I know this sucks, but if he has already filed it, the ball has been set in motion. You have to protect you and your children.
Remember, sometimes the MLCer HAS to get a D...that does not mean that he won't have regret or try to come back after the fact. Many of them do, only to find that the LBS has moved on.
Hugs to you sweets! Vali
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
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