In Texas you must be served, either by your spouse (if he has the guts) or by someone else (a deputy, etc...).
You will have to be served before the first court date...at which point it would be best if you had a lawyer...after that, you can negotiate with you H and honestly, I would not go for a "no-fault" D. I say name her as co-respondent and pull all that crap in...it will take longer and of course will really tick him off...you can drag it out, however, consider the cost. My H has a friend who has been getting a D since March of 2005 and he is STILL not divorced---yet the friend has moved his gf in, had a baby recently with her and whole bunch of other crap.
Go figure...you CAN drag this out...hire a very good lawyer. I'll pray that he comes out of the fog first and sees the OW for what she is...a blood sucker.
Vali
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
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