Corri wrote: "... I wasn't lionness enough to keep him."
I don't think there is anything else you could have done to keep him, lioness or no.
He was too broken. That isn't your fault.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
I don't think there is anything else you could have done to keep him, lioness or no.
My shrink told me 10 years ago, in one of our first meetings... "you should never have married this man. But you did. Now... let us see what we can do to keep you together."
At the end... when I went back to my shrink... and I told him details of all that had gone... details and unmigated truth I have not shared here and will not... he bowed his head... as if he had failed me somehow... and he said to me... are you sure?
And I said... "yes. I cannot stay."
And he grabbed my hands. And he looked up at me, and he said... "okay. Let's get you better." And he smiled at me.
And I said... "But... and ... or..." and he said to me... "you have drawn the very first boundary of your life. Let's get you better."
And I said to him... "what, was I supposed to leave?" And he said to me... it doesn't matter. Let't get you better." Now mind you... his wife was treating my xH.
And I went back to him and I told him about my most recent encounter with my xH. And he said... "yeah... so?"
I've told him about my current bf... and he has his opinions... but... he is letting me steer the ship... and he is helping me regain my sense of self. Up against a wall... you cannot find anyone... ANYONE... who will come out fighting harder than me. He doesn't want me to fight anymore. He just wants me to be Corri. And that is quite a challenge. To BE my lionness.
Corri wrote: "He just wants me to be Corri. And that is quite a challenge. To BE my lionness."
Amen to that Corri girl. I'm no shrink, but I KNOW you are going to be okay.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
For jaw-breaking ... one alpha, one wannabe alpha, and one raging lioness (with some caveats)
Against jaw-breaking ... a different lioness
What say you BF, Cobra, and the other alpha males (or wannabes)?
How about you Choc?
Chrome
p.s. Choc, I am making light a little bit here, but I do think this is serious. Whether you are into jaw-breaking or not, letting your W know that you IN NO WAY want her crossing the line with any OM is IMHO an important thing to do.
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
Choc is taking the entitled, pissed off H route. He has no intention of reclimaing, for he sees it as losing pride, BTDT too many times, thing. I can see it. As a D wife. Sure. No prob.
Threatening breaking of jaws thats just macho bs, but it sounds good on the internet. Oh I know its not a threat, its a promise. It's be said before there is always someone out there bigger, faster and meaner. There are people who like to fight, there are people who train to fight, there are people who don't mind taking a couple of shots if it means they can destroy you, there are people who have black hearts that would think nothing of breaking you knees or worse in a fight and have the knowledge to do so.
Daniel Pinkwater said "Somewhere, there is a chile you cannot eat".
While I can see the egoic desire to fight a sexual rival my vote goes against violence, and especially against threats of violence.
Now back to the topic at hand, C-eyes need to set a boundary.
Don't try and be perfect about it don't put that burden on yourself as well. Do you think an "alpha" cares if they say the right thing? Just say something, don't let these things slide.
Mthfcker. Dam it, I hate you sometimes. I really do, I really, really, really, really do.
