Whore/Madonna

[Heywyre]

Well, I should have figured the C wouldn't give us a copy of the questionnaire to take home - after all, better that we should do it on his time and pay him for it right? - lol

Anyway, the questionnaire was called Dyadic Adjustment Scale for couples - you can find a fair amount of information about it online

It covers 4 basic subgroups

Dyadic Consensus
Assesses the extent of agreement between partners on matters
important to the relationship: religion, recreation, friends, household tasks, and time spent together.

Dyadic Satisfaction
Measures the amount of tension in the relationship, as well as the extent to which the individual has considered ending it. Higher scores on Dyadic Satisfaction indicate satisfaction with the present state of the relationship and commitment to its continuance.

Affectional Expression
Measures an individual’s satisfaction in the expression of affection and sex in the relationship.

Dyadic Cohesion
Assesses the common interests and activities shared by the couple.

Each person fills out their own questionnaire and they are not to talk to each other or compare their answers at all !!

Then the C takes them and evaluates to see where each of the partners sits on the "average" scale.

H and I were pretty much deadon - not like I didn't already know that - but C seemed a little surprised we had so much in common.

However, here is the interesting part. The only question - one question!!! - we differed in, was to do with the sexual aspect of our R. I basically said I wasn't happy at all with it, H said he was content. We were at exact opposite ends of the scale for that one.

So, we (all 3 of us) have decided for the next couple of sessions we are going to concentrate on the psychological aspect of the W/M complex and see where it leads us. C feels our M/R is strong enough at this point and we have weathered the storm (so to speak) and can now move on to this issue. If we don't feel it is helping, C will refer us to a sex therapist

Should be interesting - we go for our first session about this on Monday