Somehow you have to separate the money from the relationship. Eventually you're only going to resent this man more if he pulls you down financially so you'll need to figure out how to take care of that.
Communication problems should be worked though in MC with someone who is very good in this particular problem. If you both can agree that you lack in this area maybe you can also make it a goal to work through it. Look at it positively as an area you'd like to grow in and get better at.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
