Hi I was just wondering if there is any reason why my posts dont get responded to very often. Am I doing something wrong? PLease help me out here Heather
If he no longer lives there, you can do what I did with W and politely ask for the key and tell him your concerns. If you don't feel you can, the only thing you can do is wait until the LS.
Depends which state she lives in.
In Arizona, if both spouses are on the title, they both have the same right to enter the home.
Only way around it is a legal separation.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
i live in a 50/50 state and both our names are on the house but H came on a removing binge while i was away. I called the lawyer he sent a nastygram to his L and said go ahead change the locks. not really supposed to, BUT he has given me reason to
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Ok SO I did something stupid yesterday. Dh was looking into legal separation and he found that we dont need a lawyer. I told him that the bank said that we did. So I got thinking about this and I figured that since we were gonna have to pay for a lawyer anyway we might as well just get a divorce. So i TM that to him. He TM back OK. Now I feel like a piece of crap. I think that this is really over. If he is so agreeable to divorce. What do you think? He TM back later he was gonna call a lawyer adn see what the options are. Then he TM that he called the bank and they said we didnt need to see a lawyer. So now he is coming tonight to work out a separation agreement. Do any of you have any thoughts on this? Did he say ok to divorce so as not to give me false hope? Did he say ok to divorce because its what he really wants? Did he say ok to divorce because he thinks it what I want? What doy uo think. ANy advice or comments are greatly appreciated Heather
I may be a bit confused here but if your husband was texting ok to the Divorce then why would he bother to contact the bank to find out if you need a lawyer? or even see what options there are because if you want a divorce then there would be no ther options.
Nicky
Me 34 H 33 D3 together 10 years married 2 years Bomb 22/8/06 (I feel empty) OW involved
Just b/c you said "ok" yesterday doesn't mean you have to stick to that. Of course he doesn't want to pay for it. If it can be "nice and friendly" and cost him less.....well hey! My H said awhile back that we could use a paralegal or something and keep the cost down (as opposed to 2 L's). At the time I think I agreed. It hasn't been brought back up again (yet), but I've changed my mind. I will not help with a D, I don't want one and this means $$$ b/c once he hires a L, I'll have to so that D's and I are protected.
Smurf hit the nail on the head though, saying and doing are two completely different things.
Well Dh agreed at the beginning of this to pay the mortgage until things were settled. I just got a phone call from the bank telling me that the mortgage hasnt been paid in 4 weeks (we pay weekly). I called h and it sounds like a mistake was made on the banks part,b ut I am in NO state of mind right now to be dealing with phone calls like that. ARRGGHG Heather
