MB on the sly. I think that was the case with GEL's H
as hard as it is to believe...yes, he went online, yes he interacted with others...but NO he did not and does not MB. For a time I found that very hard to believe, but he HONESTLY does not.
Sex isn't a control issue for men with Whore/Madonna (like my H and Heywyre's and possibly Passionate's)...it is, as Heywyre said how their brain is programmed to perceive it....and it is a difficult thing to reprogram....almost like trying to reprogram yourself to think that a hot stove top really isn't hot when you touch it. Pretty difficult to do huh? It's that difficult for a man with Whore/Madonna to look at his wife and think "sex". It also keeps them in a box sexually when it comes to having sex with his their wives...because it tends to be very boilerplate, just to get the job done. Length of time may vary, but I'd be willing to put money on the fact that most of them finish VERY quickly too....they get it over with.
My H is making great progress, and I have no idea how far he'll actually progress, but it's better than it was. He's taking baby steps and trying to do some things...but my always initiating does no favors to his progress at this point, because he needs to learn to do this for himself. If he wants sex (which he says he does now) he has to learn to ask for it and not wait for me to finally initiate to receive it.
Don't apologize for your post...it was well intentioned, just off track
