As for the "pressure" some of y'all complain about your partners feeling...

Have you ever had someone ask you to play a game, and you were very reluctant to because you "felt silly", and that someone got frustrated with you because you wouldn't play? Or you tried to get into it, just couldn't get there quickly enough (or at all), and that someone got frustrated with you because you weren't making it any fun to play with you? That's how it feels when she's feeling neglected, you can't seem to let loose and play, and then she gets frustrated while you're trying to get into the right mindset and her frustration makes you even more self-conscious.

I'm not sure what she can do at that point, other than not get frustrated in the first place, which I would guess can only happen if the problem were at most a very occasional thing to begin with.

Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 05/11/07 04:03 PM.
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