Not everyone makes it to piecing, maybe for a reason.
As this has been taken out of context and seems to have so many on Surviving in an uproar, I can see that this should have been explained properly.I apologize for failing to explain myself, once again.
NOT EVERYONE MAKES IT TO PIECING BY CHOICE There are many who have had enough of the BS from their WAS and there are also some who choose to move on and not wait for their WAS to return.
There are some who absolutely have no choice in the matter, their WAS is too far gone and too much damage has been done.
There are some who have worked so hard on themselves that when/if their WAS returns they are simply not the same people anymore, too much change has happened.
I am terribly sorry, once again for not explaining things as I should have and maybe now there will not be so much anxst here over my words.
As for the negativity, J and I have discussed this a few times, our in-laws and their lack of support. Finding out who our real friends are throughout all of this nonsense, etc.
We are all different people and what works for some, may not work for others.
This is supposed to be a place where we can discuss differences of opinions and perhaps learn from one another without having bad thoughts or gossiping about another poster on a public forum, where all are free to read these posts.
Believe it or not, I too having feelings and there are much nicer and kinder ways to handle an issue.
So again I apologize if I offended anyone and hopefully this can now be laid to rest.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
