My first relationship was not completely void of sex and intimacy. I have clouded memories of this but it was for a long period of time (19 years). I would say that the last few years were on about a once per three week pace. However, for the most part she controlled that part of our lives.
Now, why would you say that I picked two that were like this? My current one showed no signs of this at all. In fact, just the opposite.
I am attracted to a ‘wild’ look in a women. Aren’t most men?
I think my personality may lead women to believe I am soft, too kind, etc… and that may seem unattractive to them as time progresses. For my current girl, I have done almost everything for her. Up until the last few months, she really had a bold spirit and attitude. Her attitude was ‘This is the way it is and you need to do these items on my list before I feel like letting you have sex with me’. ‘But I will go to counseling so WE can work on BOTH our problems”.
Of course she never said that but her attitude was of that nature. I think I enabled her to treat me like that for 6+ months and she relished in the control on one hand but on the other hand, she knew she was losing me. Her control needs were stronger than her desire to keep me happy. Does that make sense?
Today, she is scared and understands where I am at. I am not attracted to her.
