I'm so glad I found this community. It's true about family just trying to help you. Even his mother says I should D him. Our 25th anniversary is coming up next month. I know he could care less about it but it means something to me. We had always talked about renewing our vows this year but instead he's talking D. I want to get him something but it can't be sentimental or anything like that. Would anyone have any ideas? I had also thought about putting a letter with the card letting him know I forgive him and that from this day on I plan on moving forward. Good idea or no? I haven't seemed to be able to do anything right lately and I don't want to backslide any more than I apparently already have. Until the girls and I actually move up to where he is I feel in such limbo and being in the town as the OW is really hard. Most of the time I feel like I should go and DO something but I know that will get me nowhere but into another fight with my H. As long as he's not here he's not with her except by phone.
