Yvonne, Sorry to hear about your situation. I can understand all the feelings you're going-thru.
I'm so glad you found this website and our group on the Infidelity Forum. You will find much support here. People here will understand what you're going thru and will give valuable advice.
Read "Divorce Remedy" by Michelle Weiner Davis as a starting point. It's a great book for dealing with marital crises. Familarize yourself with the different Divorce Busting techniques, so that you can begin a personal plan to save your M.
Avoid talking to family, as they tend to support you versus the marriage. They'll see you as a victim. It's more complicated then that. Consider talking to a mental health professional. Keep posting here, as our support is 24/7.
Your situation is not hopeless. You will need to do things differently to help you move from "pain to power." You will need to create a healthy lifestyle and positive attitude so that you get stronger from this experience.
For now, experience your pain, and share it with us and a therapist. It's been a rough year.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
