Yvonnec
I'm new here also. I'm new this sitch also have been married 18 years and 1 month. Ago find out my W is having and affair. Then tell me she does not love me anymore.
It is and is going to be a rollercoaster for a while. Don't beg. You can't make someone love you. I love my wife; I do forgive her for what she did. I want to work this hick up out. But... I did not have the affair. I may have done something to make her look elsewhere for intimacy but she had not said anything. We don't fight. I have been trying to tell her WE NEED HELP, WE NEED TO GO TALK TO A C for the last year. I could tell she was not happy. She has been going thru Menopause for awhile so I attributed it to that.
I know you have heard this already but it does get better. You must reclaim you life. When ever I was asked by friends or I wanted to do something I always checked with my W. In my mind we were one.
Since she dropped this bomb on me, I have changed. I think what I want to do. It's kind of like being born agian. Yes when I think about our marriage and the sitch I get down but I am now taking it day by day. Do something for yourself. Go get your hair done or what ever you ladies like to do to make yourself look and feel good. I have had a bad tooth that was discolored in the front of my mouth. Being a family man I always put everything else first before I would have thought of doing something cosmetic for me. The second week after joining this site people kept telling me GAL. I made the appointment (on my own) didn't even say anything to the W. I did it for me and it feels good. In the beginning I had more bad days than good. Now the tide is changing the good out number the bad. Like Cadesmom34 said. Give this board more information they can help you. I know they helped me. In fact now when I have a problem or concern and I post it here I start to panic when I don't hear from people. I have gotten more concerned about hearing from people here that I do from my W. Nobody here is an expert. But everyone here has different life experiences. Take the advice you want and shelve the rest. What some people have tried won’t work for you and some people will tell ya something you would have never thought of. The only thing I know that I have heard here over and over again that has made me feel better about myself and my sitch was “look out for your self” and “Get A Life.”


Husband

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know