Has anyone met with a family counselor to talk to their children about the changes happening in their families?

My kids just asked why I sleep in the basement and mommy sleeps in the big bed.. I feel empty, i can't protect my children from this.

My wife is out on a date, and i'm at home trying to explain to my kids that "sometimes moms and dads need to sleep in seperate beds so they can think, and be alone.".

All this BS about how you should remain a team for the kids just lets her do whatever she wants without the guilt. The other night she told me "she was a good person, and wasn't doing anything wrong". I guess since she told me she wanted to seperate a few days before starting dating the OM she covered the bases.


Anyways, i can't protect my kids from what is about to happen, but i want to do anything I can to help them not get scarred from all of this crazyness. So anyone know how family counseling work?