Valentines day massacre

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OL,
Too bad I can't buy you a beer. You need one (but not more than, say 3?).

I just happened to get on to check and see that you just posted. Glad you're still kicking. You've found some fun, and that's important. Don't stop.

Are you applying for a job as a bartender? Hard work, hard on the feet especially, I'm told. But, looks like fun. Pay can be good.

Don't worry about the papers. IMHO, sign them, or don't, doesn't matter. If you can talk to a lawyer, I'd advise it. The papers, just like the OM, don't matter. Would it really help your d get financial aid? Seems to me she shouldn't have any trouble getting any, regardless.

Remember, if she's pissy, be polite. You don't have to put up with abuse, but don't give it back. Just be polite. Let it roll off of you. Use whatever tricks you want to help you do this. I have a voodoo doll. Or you can imagine that everytime she's pissy at you, she is secretly saying I love you. And it could be true. So be strong, be polite and cheerful (as much as you can be). It will help in the long run. Honest. Get the anger out here, or with a voodoo doll.

maybe I'm playing it like a pussy, maybe I should go all out on this SOB

Man, I've thought this so often myself. I wonder if I should just be a man and kick my W out, or at least tell her what I feel and think of her and her actions. But, OL, we are being so strong doing this the right way. We are men for doing it this way. Real men. Not one of the 'tough' guy times could survive half an hour in our shoes.

OL, you're doing it. You are strong. The OM doesn't freaking matter. Seriously. It's so damn hard to get him out of your head, but try. Practice Stop Thinking.Whenever you think of the OM, stop. Do whatever it takes. It's for your own health and future happiness (and it might help you get your M back). He doesn't matter. In her mind, it's really all about her. Time for you to do the same. It's all about you now. Take care of yourself. Have fun. Get a job. You are moving on. You can be willing to move on with her, if she decides later to do that, but even if she does, it's time to do what you want.

Get angry if you have to. Get it out of your system somehow. Don't show her your anger. Don't worry about the idiot OM. It won't last. Not that you should really care, but it won't. The Affairs almost never do.

If I keep writing, I'll keep repeating myself, but how many times do you need to hear it? Let go of her. The OM is a loser who doesnt' matter or count at all. Concentrate on yourself. All you need to do with or for her is be polite.

I'm seeing results in my sitch. I'm feeling a new kind of strength. I'm able to see my life opening up. God, it still hurts like hell, but I know I've moved on and the hurt is just the residual.

You will get there too. You can do it faster by taking the advice of the DBers.

You, are worthy. Her opinion, which is way crazy now anyway, doesn't affect that. You are good, and really strong.

Peace, bro. Relax. Let it go. Have fun. Sleep soundly. Eat. Laugh. Life. It gets easier. It gets better. You'll be surprised at how you turn out when you come through all this.