Piecing, 2 steps forward, one back, or more?

[25yearsmlc]

Oh BethM,

I know where you're coming from b/c I've been on the fence for so long on this, I am sick of my own limbo...I do want to protect myself but let's face it, I'm taking a risk. But h says he is too, since he'll be earning more, there'd be more to divide.....actually, he's partly right. What's important is that he has fears, but wants to work on this. I believe for now, the thing to do with d9 is "act as if", PMA about the move and reminding her it doesn't have to be permanent by any means. Re; H, I think we both need a "plan" and a way of staying on track. I really want to minimize backsliding as much as possible. But yes, I know it'll happen.

Beth, I remember your story if I'm thinking clearly. you did follow him and he was with OW?? Post 9-11? OUCH!!!

YEP, I can imagine how you see this and honey, I feel that way lots of the time too! Hence, this post.

I guess in the final analysis, I am choosing to risk being wrong, and hurt again, b/c if I'm "wrong", I'm erring on the side of love and trust, and not fear....but OMG, it's often a close call.

Thanks for posting. Please keep in touch. I appreciate your feedback.
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