you are second-guessing everything! Many - or even most refuse counseling. Some go. And I don't think it is common that it is a work requirement...BONUS!
But if he's not ready or willing to do the hard work at this point, counselling isn't going to do a lot for him right now anyway--and REplayers aren't ready or willing.
So Hopes High, Expectations at zero--expect and prepare for all scenarios.
As for how long in the shortes does this phase--Replay?--Last.
That is not a question we can answer. There are overlaps in the phases and a Replayer may visit Liminal Depression. One in Liminal Depression may return to visit Replay. It depends on the issues he must work through from childhoos--the degree of wounding. It also CAN depend on how those around him respond. If you deny his crisis and beg and plead, that can prolong the crisis. Accept and be the soft place for him to land.
But even if I had a numerical answer, I would be hestitant to give it. Your question shows that you are presently focusing on TIME and focusing that it will and should be shorter thatn is standard.
Many--and perhps most posters feel thaty cannot and/or will not be able to wait for the typical MLC timeline. Tough...MLC runs on HIS time, not yours. If I were to answer you, it would only serve to distract your focus toward that unusually short time period.
It is better to Accept whatever...or at least Accept the MLC norm--Figure 18-24 months of Replay, and be happy if it is shorter.
There are few special cases. Yes, we are all unique, but what shocks so many around here is the similarities--TONS. MANY situations and MLC speeches appear identical. Most posters here have kids...many young. They have mortgages and a threat of sale. They have in-;laws turn against them and kick-'em to the curb friends.
Get your life in order. Protect yourself and live for yourself and the kids.
