Ah, maybe you were HURT: "W, I was really pissed off last night. I think the anger was masking feeling hurt. I felt like I didn't matter to you when you didn't let me know you would be late last night. It made me feel like a failure as a husband who is powerless to change things. It really sucked."
I guess I don't want to give her that satisfaction.
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The point is to find out what is really under the anger and communicate that directly, unapologetically. You aren't going to be expending all this energy simply because someone was a bit rude to you. SOMETHING else is going on. What is it??
I'm not sure. I am under a tremendous amount of financial stress lately, and I guess maybe I'm just feeling like a total failure in so many areas of my life simultaneously. I was honestly trying to soul-search my true feelings last night, to find out what it was that was bothering me so much (because, to be honest, I WASN'T all that "worried" -- she was with a group I know, I knew where they were, it was nearby, she had a COP with her for crissakes, and she wasn't driving).
I think I just felt like a sap. And I CANNOT STAND feeling like a sap.
