Zuzu, I had a hard time w/ that kind of stuff too. When I almost lost my H, I did a 360 (no 180's here) and I've done & said stuff I never would have imagined. Now, the anal stuff, no. And I think you have every right to say no to certain things, but if it's going to make him happy, maybe you could start trying to say/do different things that you COULD become comfortable w/.

Some people, however, just have a lot of inhibitions about sex and can't necessarily go there and if that's how it is for you, your H is going to need to do some work on accepting what is and is not ok FROM YOUR PERSPECTIVE. (thanks again for your earlier post, girl!) \:\)

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10