Tell him you want to pretend. Roll over, put lube on your butt, encourage him to have outercourse while simulating anal, talk to him during it, asking him to give you anal, but reminding him it is pretend if necessary.
Read "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by Tristan Taormino to help you understand why it might be relevant to intimacy for both of you. I haven't read it, but it looks interesting.
If you can't swallow, you can still embrace him and his cum. During oral, encourage him to cum in your face and rub it all over you instead of swallowing.
Go for a wax and put a fake tattoo on of a heart in a new place to surprise him. It will grow back.
Quit worrying what other people would think. No one else should have any information here to have any thoughts about any of it except you and H.
