Question for the Alpha Males

[RedHeadWife]

I've just read your thread, however, I don't have all the background before that, but I was just curious as to when was the last time you tried to talk to your W about your sitch (obviously prior to the 3 yr mark, but when before that and how many times)?

The only reason I ask is you kind of categorized (and maybe I'm wierd) but it only took 1 D bomb and I now have a note on my computer that says "NEVER FORGET." I do not ever want to have to go through that again -- I love my H so very much and am willing to do all I can to save my M, which I believe I have successfully done (and this did include becoming HD v. pretty much LD and now I love it).

But my point is that often times we get back into the rut and that's when we need to remember the lessons learned and remember that it takes effort. Anyway, I'm just wondering what would happen if you did decide to talk to your W again? Even if you said to yourself "Self, just one more time and that's it." Maybe that's what she is waiting for. Maybe you both are just being stubborn and wasting time that you will never be able to get back. Maybe I'm way off base.