Well, the child support comment would probably just make him mad. I don't think I would respond in that way.

I would probably respond by reiterating that you love him and still want to work your M out. Or just don't respond at all. If going semi-dark pushed him away and he is still @ the house, at times even, just be pleasant & loving to him. Act "as if" nothing is happening as far as D goes.

If it comes up, you can tell him, like I said above, that you love him and want your family to stay together.

Does that help at all? I'm surely no expert here \:\)

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10