First of all BND, how many times has our WAs made promises to us? How many times do we believe them before we finally come to the conclusion that we're total idiots for once again giving them another chance? There are worse things in life than giving up on a one-sided M. At one time, I thought that I wouldn't survive if I were to D. Now, 3 yrs later, I find that it was the best thing that ever happened to me and wish that I hadn't wasted so much time fighting it.
So, I guess, you are entitled to your opinion in regards to saving a M at any cost (which is how you come across). However, I am not in agreement with you.
I don't want to get into a pissing match with you regarding this. I just don't have the energy to argue with you or anyone else. BTDT. Please don't post to me again and I'm very sorry I mentioned you in my post to 25yrs. It won't happen again.
First of all I want to say one thing. There is a difference between standing for your marriage and saving your marriage regardless the cost.
So again I have been misquoted.
IF a Spouse, who was normally a good and decent person before MLC hit, and from reading here, most of them were, then in this case, standing should be done.
BUT
It is not for everyone. It is painful and tiring and hard and it hurts.
IF the WAS is abusive in any way, or continues to have affairs or is truly done with the Marriage and just keeps on walking in the opposite direction then it is a little different.
J, Your Husband wants to be with you and the kids. He wants to rebuild that which was lost. It takes time, and patience, but it can happen if you are BOTH willing.
There is a difference between a WAS and a MLC'er.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
