"Maybe she is, maybe she isn't". Ok. Then let HER say that she's working on it to him. I guess one way or the other she'll be found out. I have very little sympathy for mistruth. I understand the standpoint of not telling kids everything but what I was pointing out was that you don't have to do this alone. If this is a "we" thing part of that "we" is the wife and she has to step up to the plate 'cause that 14 year old batter just took a swing and knocked a foul over the back fence. If you don't think he could tell you were lying then you're fooling yourself. Kids can tell. Heck, most adults can. Since you want to foster truth rather than tell him who's walking away or working on it or whatever then tell him to speak to your wife, his mother, and I suggest you find him a therapist. He's going to be confused enough without having at least 1 parent he can fully trust. I know this sounds harsh, but the reality of the situation is he IS going to get hurt. It's no mercy to hang a man slowly.
