As long as she's with OM doing the same thing I don't think you're overdoing it. You are GALing and that's exactly what you need to do. It does seem to be making you feel better and it gets you out of staying at home, dejected and feeling sorry for yourself.
You are doing exactly what I wish I would have done earlier in my husband's "yo-yoing" in the marriage. It wasn't until I did the same thing as you are describing that my husband had to consider what he could lose.
This type of thing may not be appropriate in all situations, but basically you have to look at where things are and gauge what seems to work, what doesn't and then go with what seems to work. Andy, you seem to be getting your wife's attention and that seems good at this time. Make sure when she sees you you're acting like you think you are the sexiest, hunkiest guy on the planet... hot clothes, shirt unbuttoned (LOL!!!!). Then, while doing this, continue to be nice, friendly, HAPPY and you might even try throwing your wife a compliment here or there or even being a bit flirtatious. Say something sexy to her (she'll think your're practicing up for meething other women!!!! Hee hee!!!) See what she does with that!!!
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