Don't worry about your husband and why he's acting the way he is, focus on yourself and your kids. Detach!!!! Your husband probably is really depressed about his life and losing the idea of what OW represents (not HER as a person, he doesn't even truly know HER.... she represents some ideal for him, i.e. money, wealth and the trophy girl. She's a mirror for how he'd like to see himself. Also, don't think she's such a great "catch" if her husband doesn't care about their relationship, thus doesn't care too much about his wife, or she's willing to cheat on him... What's so great about a woman like that? Beautiful shallow women are a dime a dozen. Any woman who latches onto a married man is nothing special. In other words don't underrate yourself, and don't feel bad if your husband doesn't see this right now, he is blinded and mentally mixed up right now).
I forgot if you mentioned this.. is OW still married? Are you just relying on information your husband has told you? He may be telling you her husband knows about the realtionship and is fine with it so you don't contact him and tell him what's going on.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
