Has the suicide attempt been reported? Maybe he needs therapy or antidepressants. I don't think he's trying to control you, it sounds to me like he's very depressed and needs help. If he were my husband I'd offer to meet and talk with him or try to arrange for some help (i.e. like find a therapist for him to talk with).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
no it wasnt and i am beginning to wonder the truth of it. he came over 2night 2 see the kids. i asked him about the attempt this weekend and he told me that he took 100 painkillers but didn't go to the hospital. he refuses to talk to anyone other than his best guy friend and this ow. he told me tonight that the ow's h knows about the 2 of them and he is fine with the situation that the three of them went out and got drunk together. i don't know what to believe. what would u believe? heaven help me PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it would be great if someone could make eye glasses and if someone was lying to you then LIAR would show up on thier forehead. i could really use something like that right now bc i think my h is a pathalogical liar. i cant even tell what is the truth or a lie anymore.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Be carefull many years ago I brock up with my high school sweet heart. She called that night and said she took alot of pills to kill herself. I rushed overthere with some stuff the pham. gave me to make her throw up. I made her drink it and sat up with her all night throwing up. Anyway Being young and stupid I thought I can't break up with her she must really love me to do this. Not thinking I don't really love her. Anyway fast forward 5 years 360 days she left me with a 3 mo old D and a 3 yr D. I didn't know it but she had gotten hooked on coke. I raised the girls by myself. haven't heard from her since. My point it if sombody really does something like this get them help and then RUN
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
wow i feel like running. i am starting to loose hope on being able to get my h back. its like my h is dead and gone and i am left with his evil twin. i need advice. lets face it guys are usually very territorial when it comes to there female. do u really think that the ow's h knows about her and my h and is fine with it. my h acts like they are great friends and he has no problem with the situation.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
My W told me that the OM is unhappy with his M and his W knows but I told her he is just telling her what she wants to hear. I asked her Have YOU talked to his with. When I asked if I could talk to his wife she told me that he does not want me to contact his family, He also calls her from pay phones a lot. (I used to look at the cell phone log but have since stopped because it always upset me. She told me she trusts him and what he says. I told her I trusted her and look where it got me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying run from your H. But stay and work on your M because you love him not because he has threatened suicide
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
i do love my h but i am afraid that the man i fell in love with 12 years ago is no longer there anymore. the man i fell in love with would not do this. my h is not commiting suicide bc he wants me back he is doing it bc i dont think his life is turning out the way he was expecting. he still has the ow but his job is in jeapordy. he expected to have the ow his job which he should be making six figure salery by the end of next year. instead he is limited on money and he is about to loose his job. that is what he is worried about and i think deep down he wonders if he has no money if this ow will still be with him.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Don't worry about your husband and why he's acting the way he is, focus on yourself and your kids. Detach!!!! Your husband probably is really depressed about his life and losing the idea of what OW represents (not HER as a person, he doesn't even truly know HER.... she represents some ideal for him, i.e. money, wealth and the trophy girl. She's a mirror for how he'd like to see himself. Also, don't think she's such a great "catch" if her husband doesn't care about their relationship, thus doesn't care too much about his wife, or she's willing to cheat on him... What's so great about a woman like that? Beautiful shallow women are a dime a dozen. Any woman who latches onto a married man is nothing special. In other words don't underrate yourself, and don't feel bad if your husband doesn't see this right now, he is blinded and mentally mixed up right now).
I forgot if you mentioned this.. is OW still married? Are you just relying on information your husband has told you? He may be telling you her husband knows about the realtionship and is fine with it so you don't contact him and tell him what's going on.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
actually i did a stupid thing today and texted the ow and yes she is still married. i know i shouldnt have. now i dont know what to do. i just wanted to let her know that my h cant have anymore kids so the closest thing she will come to kids is helping my h with our kids when they visit. also if she is so sorry for everything like she says she is then she can still back off and leave my h alone and let us work things out. now what do i do?
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
Well.... my advice and what I would do are two different things. What you should do is stay away, don't text her any more and focus on you and the kids. By contacting her you're getting in the middle of things and the best place to be is outside of it because it's not a healthy place. Their relationship, the whole thing is ugly and it's probably best not to get tangled up in it. Being the strong, safety net outside of it seems like a much better place to be.
Also, trying to convince her not to get involved with your husband is probably going to have the opposite effect. It's like trying to tell a teenager not to date a certain kid... then they just want to do it more!!!
As far as what I'd do (and have done!) in a similar situation... I can't go there. It's not the best advice because there's lots of potential for backfire and the chance of creating enormous havoc. You only go there if you're willing to deal with the consequences.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
i just feel like throwing up right now. i hate this i really feel like my h is gone for good. i feel like there is no way that i will get my h back. i don't know what to do.
me-30 h-38 m-11 yrs s-6 s-7 ss-13 h left-april 21,2007 found out of ea april 1, 2007
