Yesterday when I got home from work she wanted to have a relationship talk.
Her main point of view was this “I just want you to understand how I feel, would you please explain to me your take on how I feel”.
I almost wanted to laugh but did not and I said “Well, you want security and you want trust. You have lost trust in me because I have asked you to leave on numerous occasions in a year. Is that it?” She was vague and I am still not sure what the hell she was trying to say. I think she is projecting on me in order to not feel guilty for messing up (No Intimacy!).
She asked “What do you not like about me?” I said (I tried to be nice), “I do not understand why you did not apply for the free State Medical Insurance for your kids months ago?”. I said “I do not like why you have not cleaned our room up even when I made a new walk-in closet for us. To me this shows disrespect to me.”
I also said “Look, I am done… I want Intimacy plain and simple….. Even if you started improving, I would question your sincerity, so actually I have lost my trust in you.” “I really don’t want to discuss this any further until next week after your finals are done.”
She had a counseling appointment yesterday by herself. She said the counselor stated that she has honesty issues and communication issues but he sees no major damage from her past. The counselor will NOT tell us that we should not be together. He feels this is unethical.
I left word for the counselor to call me this morning for a quick question. My question is this “In your opinion (after 18+ visits) Mr. Counselor, and your 20 years of experience and the fact that little progress has been made in 8 months…
What are the chances the Intimacy issue will crop up in the future and how long will this be an issue for us? He should have an answer of some kind!
