I googled and found this info helpful to me about Emotional Affairs
I wish that I had been armed with this information 3 years ago. Maybe I would have been able to steer her towards counselling for herself, and put my foot down at that time, making her choose.

http://marriage.about.com/od/infidelity/ss/emotionalaffair.htm


I am getting very close to moving out. I want to try and go to see a lawyer first to make certain that I look after my interests correctly.

As most of you have gone through the emotional difficulties, I am doing the same.

I have lost nearly 10 pounds since Friday. We have been together married and dating for nearly 35 years, and I am a highly emotional person, so the crying and sad feelings can be dehabilitating for me.

It's just like everything I have ever dreamed for in life has been ripped away. In construction myself, I have worked very hard making our home beautiful, with woodwork and interior design which would rival many show homes. It's such a wonderful place to come home to. It's taken many years tens of thousands of dollars, and many long hours.
Our kids are wonderful young adults, but housing costs are so high here, that I would have to move far away from their work and friends to be able to afford a home which they could live with me.
They all know our marriage is in dire straights, and are trying SO hard to be extra nice, do extra chores, and to be so supportive. I know that this is going to be heartbreaking for them.

Being so emotional, my heart wants to stay, wish that everything is better, wishing that it was the way it was again. My logical side knows that W has not even admitted anything is really wrong other than the physical affair. She feels it's okay still being close friends with OM.
Even though I write it down it is still; Heart 90% Logic 10%

Understandable since we have been a couple so long, and that I am emotional.

Will she be able to change this destructive behaviour? I believe 75% No 25% Yes

Could I live with myself in a destructive relationship? 100% No

IS 49 W 47 S 21 D 19 S 16
M 24y Together 31y
EA Mar04-May 06
PA Feb06-Jun06 EA May07
Bomb Dec 28 07

Footfalls echo in the memory, down the passage which we did not take, towards the door we never opened Into the rose-garden.
T. S. Eliot