I asked you those questions because I wanted you to think about your feelings. What's the payoff for J? It was good to hear that you know exactly what's up with him. You don't sugar coat things as I once did, so you're a step ahead of me in that respect. No matter what you choose you are in for a lot of work. You know that I wish you the best and hope for only good things for you and your children.
I absolutely agree that children need both of their parents but we have to remember not to lose a piece of ourselves along the way. So continue to be true to yourself and you'll be fine.
I still see your husband in a not so bright light. Maybe I'm just jaded from seeing so many good people coming out of this with something other then they had originally thought. I know now that there is no wrong or right way to deal with this. We're all human and we do the best we can.
