How do I know if it is MLC

[bright 2 morro]

RCR,
Thank you for that link. I just checked it out. I have to say that my H is a Drop-in. He moved out but still stops by on his terms. He may only stay a short period of time but he does come. He tries to come and take the kids to daycare in the morning. He will come and take the boys (sometimes) when I have Dance and Girl Scouts with my daughter.

Last night he said he would and then he called and said he had to mow and could not take the boys. I took them with me and he did mow the lawn.

Up until this week I had not seen this as a good thing. I saw it as a major problem. Now I have learned to deal with this and can handle it a whole lot more. Is it bad for me to let him do this. I do not want him to think he has his cake and can eat it too. How do I set boundries? What kind of boundries can I set to let him know that it is ok but I still need to move on.

I have asked him not to just walk in because he moved out and has his privacy so I should have mine also. For the first time today he actually rang the door bell. It has almost been 1 week since I asked him and he just started ringing. I have seen everyother variation of an attempt to only somewhat respect my request. Probably, to push my buttons.

mimi