want to think he is starting to think about what he has done... Is it to soon?
Yes and No.
MLCers cycle. In the beginning it can seem the cycling is constant. They change their minds and want to be with you, miss you, miss home. Some turn right around and move home--to leave again. That is why this is a Rollercoaster.
He will be constantly thinking about what he has done. It will overwhelm him with guilt. So one of your jobs is not to add to that guilt...do nothing to make him feel guilty for his actions, how he hurting you, hurting the kids etc...he already feels guilty...and additional guilt will make him run farther away.
And some return home due to guilt they ahve cycled to a mind change, they see your changes and want tot est their stability etc.
Go ahead, if you are willing, let him move home. Just don't think that at this early stage he will stay. It's also acceptable to tell him that he is not ready and cannot come home yet.
It seems that their are many posters who post about reconciliation at about the three months stage. Sweetheart came home after three months. I told him he wasn't ready--and he moved to a transition house. But I knew it wasn't going to last...but that I was still going to do my part in case it did.
Hope for the best, expect and prepare for anything.
It is too early to tell, but you may have a Drop-In--that seems to be the most common type around here. Dropout, Droplet, Drop-In
As for being a friend and being kind...isn't that something a person should always do and be? Friends love and soemtimes love is tough, sometimes tough is what is kind. Those two things don't mean you are a doormat.
