Can you give me some advice please?

[Heywyre]

I pick I don't do it at all - makes life simple right?

And, if "my man" loves me, he will respect my choices too. It's not that I wouldn't do certain things but I still feel it has to be mutual. If you are doing it simply to please someone else, regardless of your moral views or acceptance of the matter, sorry, I don't agree it should be forced on you and perhaps "they" should learn to take "no" for an answer instead of being selfish and just wanting it all their own way