MC, Try re-reading ch. 9 of DR on "Pulling it all together". Also reference Frank_B's case. If you look at the time lines of theses sitches, you see that you just have to be patient.
Will forcing the issue bring you closer to your goals? Probably not I would say. You need to detach, detach, detach. Focus on you, maybe new GAL activities or renewed focus on these would help? Are you spending too much time alone/hanging around when W is there? Maybe making yourself less "available" would help you to focus less on what W is doing?
BTW, I got to ask from your "y'all" where are you located? I am from Texas and living in Florida (at least for now).
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