25yrs, I just read your post and I'll probably get blasted for this by BND but there are times when a D is probably the "best" thing that could happen. You've lived your life for someone else for a long time. I happen to agree with Beth that your H is a very selfish, immature man with only his own welfare at heart. A man that could leave not only his W but his kids for the idiotic reasons that you've stated.......Even if he doesn't have OW, he's a self absorbed oaf and you and your kids deserve better.
