Zu:

Of course that makes sense, and I understand your side of it completely, believe me.

How do you feel about shaving, swallowing and anal sex? What is it about fcking you don't like? (Not saying you should like it, you are you... but there is obviously something going on with it that does not feel quite right to you).

I am curious to know why he said 'it' rather than 'you.' Did you ask him? Would you be willing to go back now and ask him, more in a conversational tone, rather than in any kind of accusatory tone?

Are you having sex now? How is it?

Corri