Knowing what I know now, I would have to say about a year before the bomb drop in my instance. So with that said, this August will mark three years--the first year, I knew nothing, Year two in 2005, the bomb drop and the behavior changes were awful, 2006-more bad behavior and he moved out
we come to this year and he moved back home, moved out, is so much better toward us and am just being patient until his fantasy with OW ends and he works on himself and comes back home.
The signs are all there it is just a matter of time.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
