How do they stop loving us?

[Struggling_Husba]

Thanks so much RCR. I needed that. I am pretty detached over the past 4-6 weeks. We interact very little, except around kid or separation logistics. I did have two angry outbursts during that time, but I told her I was just cracking a bit under the stress, and she seemed to understand.

I am eating again, sleeping fairly well, exercising, concentrating at work much more, spending good quality time with kids and family, and playing music again (gig coming up in June). So the GAL is working well also. In general, I feel pretty healthy and strong. The most acute phase is over.

But I worry that going dark and detaching more when she moves out will make it seem I am giving up. I need to walk the fine line that lets me stay detached but also engage in positive interactions when the opportunity arises.

I often want to give up and get on with my life. But if I'm true to my feelings, I know I still love her and want our family to be together. I keep repeating to myself RCR's refrain: "MLC takes time, MLC takes time, MLC takes time..."

-SH