Well, I just scheduled my last of 3 appointments with a DB coach. Tomorrow at 9AM.
I've been reading through Sven and Frank_D's threads. I see a lot of similarities in the way that the WAW responds and I'm trying to put the lessons learned from Frank_D and Sven into play.
The pecks, little hugs, or I hug her and she just stands there type stuff is better than nothing. I think I have done something Frank_D talks about in one of his threads where he would hang around and wait/linger to catch a kiss goodnight or something and how he stopped doing that because he thought it was being interpreted as being desperate. I think that's the signal I've been sending. The last few days I've been better about it but before that I would try to make the "peck" last a little longer, hug feel a little deeper/warmer, try to find her at night or when I'm leaving to hopefully get that kiss/hug goodnight/bye. I believe as Frank_D mentioned, it comes off as desperate and probably more pursuing behavior.
I'm leaving for the day soon and that is my plan for tonight. No lingering, no trying to make the "peck" more of a kiss, no holding onto the hug a little longer hoping she will put her arms around me. Time to let that go. Shoot, if I wanted a hug or kiss that desperately I could walk up and wrap my arms around the 28 year old hottie I work with that invited me out for drinks on Cinco De Mayo. She made it more than clear that she heard there were problems on the homefront and if things ever change with the domestic situation, she is really interested in a lot of the same things I'm interested in, ie; live music, outdoor sports, working out, (she competes in fitness competitions), so if I need to "clear my head, we can go do some things".
For now, I'll just use that as a needed ego boost to stay the course. Yeah, I know, sounds twisted but realizing that I don't "need" the W to want me, to be wanted, eases some of the desperation.
