We don't have any children together. This is a second marriage for both of us and we married only 5 years ago and we are in our late 40s. I was attracted to him because of his gentleness and caring personality. He was always a giver. Now, I'm not sure if he just wanted me to see what he wanted me to. Yes,I knew he had financial problems before we got married, I almost didn't marry him because of his debt. But I took a leap of faith, let my guard down and decided to give it a try. It didn't take long, only a year into our marriage before he began his A, and it has been a battle every since. I am guilty of telling him to get what he wants, IF he can afford it. I let him make that decision. How do I say this to make sense. We don't co-mingle our bills, he has no idea what my bills are, and I don't know anything about his. Budgets? Well, I've brought this up several times, but he's just not interested. We really live separate lives. We're not your conventional married couple. Because we both are divorsed, we're a little more protective of what's mine is mine type of attitude.
I am about to get to a point where I want to sell the house, but honestly, if I move, I'm pretty certain that it would be to live by myself. I think he would want that too. He's not open to have me in HIS finances. And, I can't trust him to do the right thing.
